It's defo risky. And it's admittedly embarrassing to a degree. I met my bf online, we started dating when we met in person. Been together over 4 years now and going strong but even I am The people who say “find men through a hobby” are largely delusional, it’s a remnant from romantic sitcoms that takes place in ’s New York. If you, as a RedPill woman should, are I’m embarrassed to go on a dating app. But I feel like I’ll never meet an intelligent, single man any other way. It just seems like I’m advertising myself for men and I’m ashamed that it’s come Online Dating Is Horrible. Let me go through a scenario with you all; You're a long-time singleton in a full-time job and little spare time to meet other people. So you decide to get yourself on a Online dating just results in good men having lower self esteem and being exhausted of dating. While the bad ones keep going un-deterred. And the good women are constantly under threat ... read more
So that can be frustrating. Plus the women you meet on line to not be very interesting. Too many just watch tv. The problem with the paid sites is they can offer you a really narrow range of choice. On EHarmony, the algorithm matches you with 2 or 3 people, but you don't have much say in who you write. With Match the problem is stale fake profiles.
Most of the profiles are people who joined and then quit, but after you quit they keep sending you junk mail saying your profile got a match. You can find the smaller niche sites like Jdate and Christian Mingle and again the problem is that you might sign up for 6 months and get 3 messages during that time. I think its better to focus on meeting people through common interests, but just use OLD as a back up when you haven't met anyone through your social network or just stuff you are doing in life that week.
Universally the women I met offline have been better than the woman on line. Originally Posted by Seija. Originally Posted by TashaPosh. You can only have as much success as the quality of ppl on the app tho if lots of the ppl on it are scammers married men or women that are cheating or kids or old ppl playing around, you will have less success ofc. IMO men or women that want higher quality ppl want to weed out that stuff AND..
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All times are GMT The time now is PM. but how am I supposed to get anywhere if I am always trying to hide it? Is this normal? And I'm talking about any situation - whether the guy likes me or doesn't like me. No matter what, I have incredible trouble admitting it. How does a person "put themselves out there"?
It seems like every time I do that, it has disasterous results. Not just rejection, but complete humiliation and drama and being ridiculed or something. I think you've answered your own question - if every time you've 'put yourself out there', you've experienced rejection, humiliation and ridicule then it makes sense that you hold back.
It sounds as though you are taking this all far too seriously; it's not unusual for people to talk about liking someone, just casually in conversation. In fact, using the term 'admitted' makes it sound like a crime.
If you stop treating it like it's a big deal, it'll stop being one. Also, if someone can see that you're interested in a guy, and are vehemently denying it, they're far more likely to be interested and push for more information than if you just agreed that you were. It's not a bad idea to let it be known when you're interested in someone - provided they're available - as it may give an otherwise hesitant guy the impetus to do something about it. Can you elaborate?
What happened in the past? Was it "every time"? Can you remember times when it wasn't so disastrous, but not what you'd hoped? Can you perhaps interpret the past events differently, so they don't have such an impact on the present? well, in the past, the person will just say, "i don't want a relationship" and then i get very embarrassed.
other times include when I told my then-boyfriend I liked him, he dumped me a week later. Even though throughout us dating, he was always saying he liked me all the time and showing a lot of interest. When I said it, he dumped me. Another guy, I wrote a post about him. even when I liked him a year ago, a year later he's still treating me as if I'm some basketcase who is going to commit suicide just because he rejected me. Another guy I told I liked him and he also gave me the I don't want a relationship right now line, and then a year later when we kissed, he acted all regretful of it and told people what a mistake it was and even implied like I came on to him the opposite of what really happened , and it was humiliated ,and it felt very cruel.
I guess I don't even know HOW to go about telling somebody I like them, or inquiring into it. It's possible I'm just doing it wrong, and then I would like to change, if that's the case. PS, another girl I knew in grad schol liked this guy and was embarrassed and didn't want him to know it.
And when i was in college, I remember a friend liked this guy and the three of us went to lunch together. I recall during the lunch I gave him a compliment. then later on during our gab fest, the friend said she didn't want to compliment him because she liked him so much. I don't remember the gist of that, but the point is, there are many examples of me getting this message that one is never supposed to reveal when they are interested in somebody.
And although it never happened to me, I think of that movie "Never Been Kissed" where she liked the guy in high school and he played a cruel joke on her by asking her to prom only to show up and throw egg on her face.
That sort of thing comes to mind. In addition, if somebody asks if I like somebody who I am NOT interested, I get really offended.
What's the best way to let it be known that you're interested. I'm assuming part of this is the way i'm telling them. see my other post in this thread. The latest guy acted like he was formally rejecting me and made a big deal of it, and was talking to me as if I would be so devastated by his rejection.
You are just protecting yourself, it's what we do. When we get hurt physically, we learn not to go down that path again that would result in the same thing. I see no reason why this wouldn't happen when we get emotionally hurt as well. I have to admit, I've never told someone I liked them until it was painfully obvious that we were both interested in each other.
I don't think you have to literally walk up to a person and say "I like you". However, it doesn't mean you should hide it either.
Things like compliments can go a long way, in some cases where there isn't a compliment their feelings could get hurt if they are interested in you. You could 'put yourself out there' by asking someone you are interested in for coffee, or dinner and get to know them more one-to-one. When you're asked out on a date by someone else, it is already obvious that they like you so they have already put themselves out there for you - telling them you like them doesn't seem so daunting when they have gathered the courage to ask you out.
I don't think there's anything wrong with hiding your attraction. However, being ashamed of it, and purposely avoiding them or being cold is what would set you back. You can be as friendly to them as you would any other person without letting on that you like them and you can take it from there. How are you supposed to act in situations in which the person just doesn't want a relationship for whatever reason or let's say you're moving away, so there is pretty much no chance for a relationship, but you still really like the person, or even in situations where the person just doesn't reciprocate and doesn't like you in that way I tend to act interested and then when they are on to me or formally reject me, or explain how they don't want a relationship, I vehemently deny any feelings.
I partly convince myself of it, and partly i'm just embarrassed and I deny it and say i never liked them. but should I be confident instead and say something like "yes i'm interested and I'm sorry you don't feel the same way.
good day sir! I am wondering what to do after the rejection what if it's a situation let's say where they just broke up with their 4 year long girlfriend a month ago, They tell me they don't want a relationship, so I act like I don't even like them like that and only see them as a friend. Then I go through this charade of pretending he's my bud. But in reality I do like him and maybe when he's over it, there'd be a chance of us getting together. But I deny it Automatically when I perceive i've been rejected in any way.
That just doesn't SEEM right. I feel like i've seen people stand their ground. I'm not saying I want to push anybody or pressure them or get them to change their mind or be persistent.
That's not what I mean. I mean just not denying that yes I do indeed like them, and then just moving on. I tend to do the denial and lie about it before I move on. Online dating apps and sex unless you. Both the process. What they're up to use online dating still exist. Over 40 million people who match their online dating. The jamaican dating website Some do in real life.
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wife, college, Latin User Name Remember Me Password [ Register ] Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. View detailed profile Advanced or search site with Search Forums Advanced. The Illusive Man. Not at all. I love online dating and all the apps. I'm even planning on creating one of my own. Its' really awesome and convenient.
You can find whatever it is you're looking for from the comfort of your own home. I can be relaxing at home in my boxers and find a ton of prospects just like that. I bet people throughout time wish they had this option. Going out to bars and all that does not compare. I don't use it. But if I did. Yes, I'd be totally embarassed, and I'd also be ashamed of myself.
I know alot of people here use it. I'm not judging any of you because believe me - I don't care lol. Originally Posted by timberline And its a damn shame Oh stop it with this. I know plenty of women that go to bars alone, and see plenty that go alone. It doesn't look like anything of the sort, to me, or any guy with half a brain. What it looks like is a woman that wanted to go out and get a drink and be around people.
No different than a guy going out. I don't know about sports bars, as they're not my thing, but a nice cocktail or craft beer bar regularly has solo women. I'm not really into going to bars alone. I have done it before and I'll probably do it again at some point but not on a regular basis. This past weekend I went to a bar with a girlfriend and I had quite a few men approach me just no one I would seriously go out with.
One was way too young, one way way too old, one was way too drunk and one was wearing a wedding ring. There were a few others but no one I liked. I actually met my late husband at a bar so I know it is possible to meet someone decent at one but I only go to a bar maybe once every couple of months now so the chances of meeting someone at one are slim.
I don't need to resort to OLD to meet someone I just thought it would be interesting to check it out and some of these comments remind me why I was embarrassed in the first place. I really only started dating about two months ago so I'm not desperate. Originally Posted by D Originally Posted by geminigirl7. Originally Posted by oh-eve.
I would keep doing that. Just because you did not meet Mr. Dreamy on the first time doesn't mean he isn't out there. I referred to OLD because there aren't any places nearby and I didnt have any friends around to go out with. I was too lazy to drive hours to hang out at bars. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Additional giveaways are planned.
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Quote: Originally Posted by D I don't use it. Quote: Originally Posted by geminigirl7 I'm not really into going to bars alone. Quote: Originally Posted by geminigirl7 I don't need to resort to OLD to meet someone I just thought it would be interesting to check it out and some of these comments remind me why I was embarrassed in the first place.
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Page 15 of We welcome your questions, your requests and your feedback. Would be wrong for me to continue this relationship? Originally Posted by Seija. They are not what they used to be.OC this time. I've had success with both. Did you care? Last ». Originally Posted by mishigas So you can say I do not use them BECAUSE they are mainstream. I guess I don't even know HOW to go about telling somebody I like them, or inquiring into it.